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9 Myths About Being Single
by: Susan Dunn, MA
More than 48% of US households are
headed by unmarried individuals. The
American Association for Single People
projects that by 2010, 47.2% of adults
will be unmarried. Being single does not
mean being alone, nor does being in a
couple for the holidays ensure happiness.
Let’s dispel some myths!
Myth #1: Single people are lonely at
Christmas.
Reality: No moreso than anyone else.
This is a projection of people who fear
“being alone for the holidays,”
a fear of the unknown.
Myth #2: Single people need you to
invite them over to your celebration.
Reality: Contrary to perceptions,
single people are v. popular at
Christmas, and we generally receive lots
of invitations. If you want us over, we'd
love to be invited, but would prefer it's
because you like us, not because you
think we need it.
Myth #3: Single people don’t know
what to do for the holidays.
Reality: On the contrary, we are used
to planning our social lives actively,
good at generating options, and used to
making unilateral decisions. We’re
pros!
Myth #4: Single people are available
to perform certain social tasks during
the holiday celebration.
Reality: We like to be cherished
guests. We don’t like to be the
steer among the bulls – invited to
get people who don’t get along off
of one another’s throats. If you
don’t like your family and friends,
why would we? “Can you come over and
help out with Aunt Edna?” is not an
invitation.
Myth #5: Single people are available
to do certain physical tasks during the
holiday celebration.
Reality: Nor is this an invitation:
“It’s John’s in-laws and I
want to impress them. Can you come over
and help with the hors
d’oeuvres?” As best-friend,
yes; as the only working-guest,
absolutely not.
Myth #6: Single people are misfits,
outsiders.
Reality: On the contrary, most of us
have highly developed Emotional
Intelligence skills; that’s the
reason we get the ‘rescue us’
invitations! Outsiders? It’s about
half the adult world now. Take another
look!
Myth #7: If a single person isn’t
part of a couple, or doesn’t spend
Christmas with a couple or family, they
will be miserable.
Reality: Come on now. Is it so
horrible to celebrate Christmas on a
cruise to the Caribbean, coming back
rested, tanned and relaxed?
Myth #8: The only “happy”
way to spend the holidays is if you are a
couple or part of a family.
Reality: If that were so, half the
articles on the Internet this time of
year wouldn’t be about how to cope
with the annual holiday dinner with the
relatives, and the divorce rate in the US
wouldn’t be 50%.
Myth #9: Single people have
“nowhere to go” for the
holidays.
Reality: Nowhere to go? We have
everywhere to go! I loved my years as
Mrs. Santa. Now I’m on-the-go.
I’m thinking about Germany this
year. There are so many places to go I
can’t decide!!
In fact I have so many neat ideas for
spending Christmas on-your-own, if
you’re stuck I’ll give you a
FREE coaching session.
About The Author
© Susan Dunn, MA Clinical Psychology,
cEQc, The EQ Coach™, http://www.susandunn.cc.
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